I received some negative feedback today on some posters I have created for my community group, it was mainly around the language I had used.
If anyone knows me they will know I went over it multiple times, asked people on this page which rendered some things I had done wrong which I took and changed, but the tone of this particular comment really set me back, it felt personal like I had done something wrong to upset this one person individually, attacked Neurodivergent people as a whole and to be honest it made me slightly anxious myself because that is NOT my intention at all, let’s be honest, if I am setting up a group for Neurodivergent people why would I purposely go out of my way to upset a entire group of people.
It got me thinking about my own personal resilience and how I could maybe strengthen that, at the end of the day I am a human, I learn just like any other which means as part of that I am going to make mistakes but what is important is what I do after, if I take criticism at face value and go on full attack mode that is bad but if I am open I think that is ok and that is what I have always tried to be, as open as possible especially when I make mistakes.
Say sorry, make some changes and move forward.
9/10 what often happens though is people will hit me with criticism and have zero input on what I should have done to make it better which in itself is triggering to me because I have been told I have done something that has upset someone but no real direction as to how to fix it.
I am rambling a bit now, but I wanted to share this because it is an important learning experience, even people who are trying their very best will make mistakes and their own anxieties will be triggered as mine were.